Jul 4, 2015


If I could read your thoughts
I wouldn't have to wonder
aimlessly through the records of mine

If you could read my thoughts
I wouldn't have to wonder
aimlessly through the remnants of yours

If we could share our thoughts
would we stop wondering...
and finally rest in thoughtlessness
content, complete, infinite...


When Saturday comes
That's when the week is over

Oh - I wish it was Monday already

Feb 26, 2015

Will millennials ever amount to anything, really?

We are the millennials, the very misunderstood generation, that apparently doesn't amount to nothing, spends more time than necessary hooked to a mobile device and social media, and is incredibly self-centered and isolationist. 

Just like the younger sister/brother of the most successful kid in school, we're forced to compete each day with the image of those who came before us. In their mid and late twenties our parents already had a full time stable job, a house or apartment, children to raise, and were well integrated in their community. But so many of the millennials today in their late twenties are going back home to live with their parents, are still included in their parent's cell phone plan, are unemployed or switching from one temporary contract to another, and are just as flaky in their personal lives.

But don't blame us. We don't want to be this way. Biologically speaking in our late twenties, we do feel the need to create stable lives as well. The world has just changed and it's not the way it used to be. 

When it comes to relationships, it's not as in the cave era of our parents who didn't have as many options to find a mate so they had to just grab what they could get. With all the dating apps, and social media today, for those of us who would like to be in stable longterm relationships, it's not an easy task. Everyone's playing a spin dating game, and the notion of "settling" when there are so many other options on the menu, is plain silly for the people we so often get to meet, flirt with, date.

When it comes to work, it's not really our fault. With austerity measures, one economic crisis after the other, the job market is not what it used to be. Most of us have to pay student loans debts and we settle for less than lucrative jobs. Jobs can be exported to other countries for less money and no benefits, or can be given to increasingly older unpaid interns. The generations that came before us created this mess of an unregulated business world where corporations can play with humans as they please, but we're the ones to face the consequences. We're flaky?!

It's not for lack of ambition or for lack of trying that we are still running about trying to find our place in the world. The only solution is to change the world, but how can we, when we have debt to pay? It's quite a fantastic plan, slavery by debt. A student debt revolt has already begun in the US and we wonder whether that's going to solve anything. Should we all refuse to pay loans and work on meaningless jobs that make the world a worst place to live in, and crash and crush the nonsensical financial markets once and forever? The greediness and inability to plan longterm of the generations that came before us left our generation fighting for bread crumbs, as well as for breathable air. 

But we're the flaky ones... to them...

We want sustainability, environmental protection, elimination of debt, free education, job security, free health insurance, justice, regulation of the financial markets, banks and the corporate world, regulation of government spending, decreased wars, investment in clean energy, social responsibility. We are not flaky. We think ahead. We are the victims of those who came before us, and because of how generation after generation have sold their soul to capitalism, globalism, corporatocraticism, we're the ones who have to shovel the snow, and clear the air for ourselves and the generations to come.

"And they wonder why those of us in our 20s refuse to work an 80-hour week just so we can afford to buy their BMWs. Why we aren't interested in the counterculture they invented, as if we did not see them disembowel their revolution for a pair of running shoes. But the question remains: What are we going to do now? How can we repair all the damage we inherited? Fellow graduates, the answer is simple. The answer is..." 

I don't know, the answer is I don't know, we don't know.

It is increasingly said that this quote from Reality Bites, a movie that came out over two decades ago still stands today, and it is increasingly an even more bitter pill to swallow.

There's so much for us to do, and it's getting every day more important for us to actually do something. To actually find an answer to that question as the world gets increasingly more dangerous and radical, corporations behave more cruelly, politicians are increasingly more and more sold out, and inequality rises.

We in our 20s have lost the notion of revolution. We don't know how it's done. We don't know if it can be done. Was the Occupy movement even successful at all? Are the movements against racism, Ferguson, etc., today as powerful and effective as Martin Luther King's civil liberty movements? Did the Arab Spring actually even bring the change it wanted, or just freed place for more evil? Can we be effective in changing the world, when we don't have the guts to bring the glory? 

Maybe we need to be suffering more to understand the need for change. Maybe losing everything is what can shake us up and get us back to our senses. There's too much waste, too many meaningless wars, too much inequality, and too many decisions being made against us and the latest fashion, technology and reality tv cannot dissuade us from the revolution that needs to come. 

It is the responsibility of us millennials to fix the mess and do something about it. It is our responsibility to create a movement as powerful as those of the 1960s. 

Revolution is a tricky thing, because half of the people could die to save the other half, a head of a dragon can be sliced for three more heads to pop back up . The system is rotten because we are, and changing the world can't be done in the words of the Beatles with pictures of chairman Mao. "We all want to change the world", but to change the world we need to change our mindset. 

We millennials in our late 20s, early 30s, we need to really amount to something and put our actual anger into action, or else, in 2034, in a more dangerous, unequal, unsafe unsafe world, that Reality Bites quote will still stand. 

Feb 25, 2015

Luminous Uncertainty

Like mice running around in a maze, 
like actors performing a play word by word as it is written,
like liquids expanding perfectly within the shape of a cup,
we're all that predictable.

But once in a while, 
you say damn the universe, 
damn the man, damn the rules, 
and damn the turning wheels of fate. 

I decide. 
I'm in charge.
I have free will.

I won't become what the master welder shapes me forcibly into.

A quantum state,
fate to be written, 
mind still waiting to be set,
decisions yet not made.
Luminous uncertainty!

Feb 4, 2015

Facebook Couple Profiles and the Main Reasons Why We Should Absolutely Loathe Them

Disclaimer: Any resemblance to persons living or dead is purely coincidental and the author takes no responsibility for hurt feelings, because it’s the job of the writer to personally make all of their family, friends and acquaintances hate the writer for being honest on paper about how weird they are, while a hypocrite just like everybody else in person. 

In 2012 Facebook launched something the merely thought of which makes me cringe to my bones which is called Couples Facebook Pages. In these pages couples can basically track their relationships and tell the world, look how freaking happy we are (cringe). Facebook people insist on sharing information that no one of their friends wants to read while they're pursuing the international procrastinating fun time.

Some keep sharing baby pictures to a nauseating extent. I’m not a baby hater, so I do like one baby picture or two of the spawn of the people I actually care about, but there are some crazos who apart from not understanding the dangers of publicizing your child too much on social media, love to annoy their friends to death with updates about their children’s lives every available second of the day. Your child went poopoo on the toilet? Why do I have to know about that? And for our sanity's sake, your child is not a model, so stop dressing them up like adults and asking me to like their Facebook baby photo contest pictures.

Then there’s those who constantly share the turned single to turned in a relationship, to turned single back again status. Please update us when you are actually sure you are in a relationship, not the first time you shtoopped they guy. I know people on Facebook who have their relationship status private, because how complicated one's love/sex life is, it's none of their friends business, unless it is to proclaim that the On Sale sign is now off for probably good, or for a long while.

And then there’s those who share incredibly depressing photos of people whose lives apparently will be saved if we like the photo. Dear friends, for the last freaking time, that’s a scam. I know you have a good heart but stop spamming my homepage with pictures of sad and sick children.

But nothing annoying aforementioned really compares to how much any of us should be loathing those annoying Facebook Couple Profiles. These couples aren’t satisfied with the idea of having a Facebook Page about their couplehood (because who is actually going to like that page) but they actually force their mutual friends to sit through the friending of an unidentified blob of an identity which is called The Couple. Not only do I really loathe these profiles and the mere knowledge that they exist out there, and in my list of friends, but I also care enough to write about it and insist on why should everybody else hate them too. I'm giving you three compelling reasons, so hear me out:

Who the hell am I talking too?

The main reason why we should all boycott these profiles is because it’s just too confusing. So you both share an email address and a password and sign in on this profile you share, but how am I to know who I am speaking too? I’d love to ask something to my friend, but then her boyfriend will read that message on the inbox later. When I am writing to you, when you are liking my pictures, when I’m inviting you to an event, which one of you guys am I actually reacting too? I have no idea…Stop confusing us with this lack of concise identity and get your own separate profile.

I really don’t want to be FBFs with your fellow

Dear friend who insists on creating a couple profile, I really don’t want to be Facebook friends with your other half (cringe). I know you're very happy in your relationship, but I care to interact with you as you. Why do you insist on making me part of your relationship and force their Facebook friendship on me? I don’t know them. Never met them. Don’t care about the stupid cat pictures or religious sermons that they post. When I accepted to be your real life friend, I didn’t sign up for this. I love you, I care about you, or I just want to stalk you because I know I won't see you until highschool reunion and want to compare my achievements to yours every day, but I don’t want to have any online relationship with that person you chose to spend your very uncomfortable relationship with. I didn’t sign up for this, just because you did.

The extremely uncomfortable shared identity of couplehood

Couples who share a Facebook profile. Couples who finish each other sentences (sandwiches #ArrestedDevelopment) #cringe. Couples who use the word We/Us/Our in every conversation: “We think you should get a boyfriend!” “We strongly recommend you try the creme brulee, it is to die for!” “The doctor told us we should get a vasectomy” Excuse me??? Where did your identity go? It all makes me think you share the same toothbrush and are attached to the hip like Siamese twins. I know you guys love each other and spend way too much time together, but dude, you’ve forgotten who you are outside of that relationship. You’re becoming part of a blob and this is making me not want to hang out with you anymore. It’d be much more fun and less creepy to hang out with someone who has a Multiple Personality Disorder, rather than two people who think they’re one person. It’s just too much. Get some nail polish and remove the glue you've used to attach your butts together, and be a human again.

And to conclude, guys, I’m sure your other half (cringe) will not get jealous of you because you have a Facebook profile, if that's the reason you don't have a personal profile, but a shared one. Facebook hasn’t been a dating social app, in like, ever. We all use it to constantly compare our lives with people we were naturally supposed to forget we actually met at one point, not to send a pheromone-heavy message of availability to the other or same sex. If they actually think that that that's the reason you want a personal Facebook profile, then it’s time for you to unglue that butt from that other half (cringe) and get a life of your own. Do us all a favor and keep your social media profiles separate, and be less cringeworthy. 


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